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At the risk of being crucified, I’m just going to go ahead and put it out there that the black household is one where grooming children for sex has been normalised since time immemorial.
Please watch Greenleaf on Netflix and then tell me if you can honestly say the family meetings we propose, instead of immediately dialling 10111 on the discovery that the family’s favourite uncle is dipping his fingers in his nieces and nephews’ private parts, are unheard of in our own lives.
If, in our thirties, men are able to trick us into abandoning our own principles and morals, what chance does a teenager – whose brain is not yet fully developed realistically – stand against a mature, powerful man?
The idea that a 15-year-old should know better than someone who has been poking around other people’s genitals for longer than they (the teen) have been alive is absurd.
Kids grow up witnessing adults protecting sexual predators within the family and, in their little brains, this registers as normal behaviour.
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Why then are we pretending to be shocked when their adolescent curiosity drives them into the arms of borderline pensioners?
“Be the adult you needed as a child,” remains the most sensible piece of advice.
My first-hand experience of being a teenage daughter and a teenage daughter’s mom has given me the ability to see the world from both sides.
We must also be honest about how our pregnant high school mates were usually from the strictest and most conservative households.
The constant refrain of our parent’s voices saying “I warned you about boys” is far from the truth.
As kids grow, they will want to know more about sex and relationships. If doors are closed to them, the only option they will have is to seek information from their friends who are just as clueless.
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Paedophiles will never pass up the opportunity to lie to your teenager about how they are “very mature for their age”.
Stop blaming kids. Our peers, uncles and even parents can be predators, and burying our heads in the sand makes us just as guilty and complicit in the shameful scourge of child abuse.
